I met the lovely Laura at a local Mothercare Expectant Parent event that I was attending with Relaxed Birthing. From this initial meeting Laura signed up to my pregnancy relaxation classes which she attended for the last few months of her pregnancy. Laura has kindly shared her birth story here but pop over to her gorgeous website and blog for the longer version (and lots of other fab articles about life in the Cotswolds): Laura Life Love
At my 4th visit to the hospital to monitor his reduced movements being 39 weeks + 4 days pregnant the doctor recommended that I should consider being induced….the following day.
My heart sank a little. I knew from that moment my ‘ideal birth plan’ would begin on another path. All said and done we knew what we had to do.
The following day I had the first stage of induction at 3pm, I knew next to nothing about the process other than comments made by people saying it was ‘far more painful than a full natural birth.’ I learnt upon arrival at the hospital the first stage of induction is designed to kick-start contractions and get the cervix to open, not always will a women go into labour at the first stage.
With an uncertain road ahead I heavily relied on my positive affirmations and meditation to help me stay calm and relaxed about what was to come. Of course I was nervous…my biggest calming factor was Dave my partner at my side supporting me all the way.
9pm approached, visiting time was over and Dave began gathering his belongings to leave me for the night. I was suffering intense back pain and felt like anything could happen. Just as he stood up to say bye my waters broke.
My first thought ‘finally he’s coming!’ my second thought ‘thank god Dave is here!’
After this everything escalated very quickly in less than 1 hour I had dilated 4cm. At this time the midwife was waiting to hear if they had a bed free yet on the delivery suite, I was in pain, increasing pain I asked for an epidural if possible. In my birth plan this skipped a step which was the potential to have diamorphine before an epidural. Looking back my labour was so fast it makes sense I wanted an epidural sooner than later, I honestly think if I had a longer labour I would have considered diamorphine before anything else.
I was finally whisked in a wheel chair down to the suite, my midwife was fantastic she let me have my space and let Dave keep me calm she only popped over when I really started to push and things escalated. For me this was great as I did not want someone else shouting ‘breathe’ and ‘push’ at me along with Dave as trying to concentrate on one person was tough enough!
The breathing techniques I had practiced in Yvonne’s class helped me during the labour to focus and remain in the moment also to have more control over what was happening.
The anaesthetist arrived to do my epidural around another hour had passed. By this point I was urging to the midwife that I needed to push. She quickly examined me to find I was fully dilated.
No epidural for me.
So on gas and air I began pushing.
As my labour progressed so fast my contractions started to shorten and the midwife advised I may need a hormone drip to help with my final stages of pushing. At this point I was no longer using any gas and air. I was running on adrenaline.
This was when all the practice of mediation/yoga/relaxed birthing truly kicked in and my exhausted mind switched…I just kept thinking ‘I can do this… Just keep pushing’ and thinking of my positive affirmations my mental state took over my whole body and I just kept pushing regardless of the situation and feeling no urge too, I was positive I would deliver him before the drip would reach my system. And shortly after this moment I heard his cries.
“At 12:13am on the 9th of November time stood still, my heart welcomed a new amazing yet explosive love into our world…no words will ever describe this feeling.”
We welcomed Rohan Riley Evans into our arms and became a family of three.
From my waters breaking to Rohan’s arrival it was 3 hours 13 minutes.
Unfortunately it is common with a short birth that you run the risk of your placenta detaching from the umbilical cord.
And this happened to me. The midwives tried to manually remove this but with no luck and a lot of blood loss they made the call to send me to surgery. At this point I had a spinal block and the placenta was removed as a whole in one attempt.
It’s safe to say trying to get my placenta manually removed with 0 pain relief was far more painful than the labour, so I welcomed having surgery.
I stayed in hospital for 2 nights 3 days and was discharged once my iron levels returned back to normal luckily I did not need a blood transfusion although it came close.
My original birth plan was as follows 5 simple steps:
2.gas & air throughout if possible…
3. Diamorphine if needed
4.epidural if needed
5.baby placed straight on my chest
1,2 and 3 were my most ideal situation and I managed 2 out of 3. A lot of people say ‘do not do a birth plan because nothing will go to plan, you will not care once you’re in pain!’
I feel it was great to have one as it pushed my mental state and wellbeing to remain positive about my birth. Staying positive was the key to my whole pregnancy and labour.
Attending Yvonne’s relaxed birthing classes helped guide me to better understand exactly how to relax my mind, using her positive affirmations throughout my pregnancy also helped my confidence when it came to my birth especially when we had some challenges with having induction/surgery. I would highly recommend these to anyone and it was a fantastic way of learning/meeting new people in the local area.
Thank you Yvonne for all your support!
Laura. Dave, baby Rohan
The next block of pregnancy relaxation classes starts on the 9th January. If you’d like to find out more just pop over to this link.